A pensioner who works as a sex guru helping thousands of couples reignite their love lives has revealed her top tips for happiness in the bedroom.
Stella Ralfini, 73, is a lovemaking expert who runs ‘Love Camp’ sex workshops and has one on one sessions with couples.
Stella, from Hertford, says her philosophy with clients is to ensure they see sex itself as just one part of their relationship.
She said: ‘Lovemaking isn’t just sex. It is the little things that partners forget to do such as run a hot bath with candles or give one another a massage.
‘I have worked with couples whose relationships are falling apart and their sex lives are not satisfactory.
‘My age doesn’t affect my work – young couples see me as a wise and experienced educator.’
Stella’s classes focus on everything but penetration.
She said: ‘Men and women are completely different – we have different needs. A woman needs so much more than sex. She needs a tender loving touch. It doesn’t always have to be penetration.’
According to the septuagenarian tantra expert, the most common complaint she sees from women is that their partners rush through sex and don’t focus on their pleasure, while men typically are unhappy with the frequency of sex.
Stella is a live teacher who teaches neo-tantra, which is a modernised version of the traditional tantra school of thought, adapted to suit Western couples.
Stella describes it as ‘down to earth, flirty and playful’.
She can teach people how to have sex without needing to see their private parts, and Stella remains fully clothed throughout. Sex toys and massage oils are often used, too.
‘The exercises include exploring and practising lovemaking techniques,’ she says.
‘Some couples could be together for years yet have no idea their partner has freaky fantasies.
‘I give them the confidence to speak about them and give them instructions in erotic neo tantra massages. They learn how to become better humans and lovers.’
One couple from Suffolk have praised Stella’s Love Camp for re-igniting the spark.
Mum-of-two, Sue, said: ‘After 15 years together, life gets in the way and the spark fades.
‘After three sessions with Stella, we feel much closer together and our sex life has definitely improved.
‘We have become more conscious of setting aside time for sex and having it more frequently. My husband Mark, 59, and I have rekindled how we both felt during the early stages.’
The feedback is apparently the best part for Stella, who says: ‘Women tend to say they feel orgasmic and tell me about the wonderful sessions with their husband.
‘It makes me feel amazing knowing I can improve people’s sex lives.’
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